If you think the stuff you’ve been holding onto in your marriage to use against the other person or to prove a point and justify your anger is helping you, think again. Carrying your relationship clutter around with you like a prized possession is quite normal, but it’s also a symptoms of the deeper issues in the marriage and it’s really keeping you stuck. Learn why this is so and what you’ll need to embrace to make major changes in your marriage and begin moving forward.
Read MoreI’m continuing to explore the ideas around how relationship clutter is actually getting in your way at the beginning of marriage counseling. Learn the different between first order change (resolutions in the initial problems you’ve come to therapy with) and second order change (the shift in your relationship that heals underlying problems). By getting everything out on the table, your marriage counselor can help you filter through the mess and start working on building skills and focusing on what' really matters. After all, don’t you want an unapologetically amazing marriage? Yeah, me too!
Read MoreYou've implemented Elf on the Shelf as part of your kid's holiday traditions, but did you realize it could be helping your relationship too? Rituals are important in any relationship and will help you increase your positive interactions. Find out why this is important here and how to do this all year long.
Read MoreDon't just ask for the same old thing or this year's hottest item. Get creative with your holiday wish list and find creative ways to improve your relationship at the same time. It's a win-win. What could be more important than making sure you have a solid foundation and working towards creating the most amazing relationship possible? Read here for some ideas.
Read MoreDisney Pixar's newest movie INSIDE OUT helps give parents and children a tangible way to talk about emotions. But emotions are difficult for everyone, especially when they interject into our relationships. Conflict is clouded by uncomfortable and unclear emotions. Read my post to learn how to tackle your relationship conflict using simple lessons from INSIDE OUT.
Read MoreHow would your relationship be different if a miracle occurred and all your problems were solved? What things would you notice in your partner and what would they say about you? Diving into the miracle question can help you open your mind to new possibilities and begin the process of making changes that will improve your relationship.
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