How do you connect with you partner in the middle of raising young kids? Most couples struggle with building and maintaining a satisfying relationship during these crucial years when the kids are young and need a million things from us. But if you let your relationship die or the intimacy fade, you’ll be in real trouble. We find that simplicity is the best solution to disconnection, find ways to communicate your needs in a clear and direct way to your partner. Plug into creating intentional connection, which looks totally different when you have a year old baby or 3 kids under 10 than it did before kids. Instead of fighting the situation or pretending it’s different, acknowledge your new context and work with it instead of against it.
Read MoreMantras, Mantras, Mantras…a great way to help you get through tough stuff. Holidays are hard for everyone for many different reasons. Who couldn’t use some additional coping skills for their toolbox?
Read MoreIt's hard to know what will really happen to your relationship after you've had a baby. Conflict increases for practically every couple and most people are shocked by this. They don't know how to handle it and start to stress out, which results in even more fighting. I talk about some things that will happen postbaby, how to move on from conflict, and give you an exercise to see quick improvement in your relationship.
Read MoreEver wonder how Snicker's bars can make you a better parent? Have you seen that commercial, "you aren't yourself when you're hungry?" I'll tell you about a technique that will help you to stop and think before you start yelling or disciplining your kids in a way that doesn't feel like you. It's easy to lose your patience at times, but this is a way to remember to HALT before you say something you can't take back.
Read MoreIt's really easy to get overwhelmed as a parent. Your kids are driving you crazy, you have no time to take care of yourself, how is the house going to get clean? In this post, I share 3 easy exercise to reduce overwhelm and help you feel more confident and in control as a parent. You're doing a great job, and these tips will help you recognize that.
Read MoreEver wonder what happens in your relationship after you bring the baby home? Isn't it blissful? In many ways, it's the most wonderful time. In other ways, there are some challenges to deal with. But in the end, there are wonderful opportunities to grow as partners and parents. Read my post to learn more.
Read MoreIn this post, I offer some techniques and tips for how to remain calm and keep from losing your temper during stressful parenting situations, such as when your toddler is having a tantrum in the grocery store. These are the moments in which we feel helpless, defeated, and like failures as parents. The truth is, all parents have moments of struggle. Use those moments as opportunities to connect with others, and follow the steps to show yourself compassion. This is one topic that will be covered at my upcoming parenting skills workshop. You'll want to check that out too!
Read MoreYou may have noticed that with everything you have to do, daily chores, taking care of your baby, going to work, etc., it's difficult to stay connected to your partner. If you think about it, there are opportunities all around us to get closer to your partner. Here I provide 5 simple easy to implement ways to increase intimacy after baby.
Read MoreIf you're a parent, you've probably gotten involved in the mommy war in one way or another. It can be overwhelming, stressful, and cause anxiety or other emotional issues. I have put together a survival guide based on therapeutic principles. You are the expert of your own life, can learn mindfulness, have control over your choices and behaviors, and can engage in humor to get through the battlefield and out of the war.
Read MoreParents are always thinking about how to be a better parent and what they should be doing. But is shoulding yourself really helping you to be a better parent? The answer is no and this post explores some of the reasons why shoulding yourself isn't helpful.
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