Posts tagged fighting is not the enemy
The Power of Pause: How Taking a Break Can Transform Relationship Conflicts
The Power of Pause: How Taking a Break Can Transform Relationship Conflicts
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Why It Will Never Work to Focus on the "Problem of the Week" in Marriage Counseling

I’m continuing to explore the ideas around how relationship clutter is actually getting in your way at the beginning of marriage counseling. Learn the different between first order change (resolutions in the initial problems you’ve come to therapy with) and second order change (the shift in your relationship that heals underlying problems). By getting everything out on the table, your marriage counselor can help you filter through the mess and start working on building skills and focusing on what' really matters. After all, don’t you want an unapologetically amazing marriage? Yeah, me too!

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When You Can't Stop Arguing

Do you feel like fighting is the enemy in your relationship?  Are you ready to stop fighting all together?  My latest post offers some different ways to think about conflict and why your relationship has gotten to where it is.  Don't give up, and never stop fighting for your marriage. 

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