You have been so excited to welcome the newest addition to your family! The anticipation has been building, there’s a range of emotions to deal with, and you know the day your baby enters the world will be one of the happiest days of your life. But now you’re back home with your little one and transitioning from being a couple to being a family. It can be stressful in many ways; there’s the lack of sleep, busy feeding schedule, opinions coming from all directions, and little time together as a couple. The first year after having a baby is considered one of the most difficult on your marriage. Relationship satisfaction often goes down in the first year.
There are both physical and emotional changes involved in transitioning to being new parents. The focus and energy are centered on the new baby and trying to meet their, often unclear, needs. With all of these stresses, your relationship may get put on the back-burner. Your marriage will still be there after the middle-of-the-night-feeding stage, so why not continue to strengthen it every step of the way? Working as a team with your partner will help you both navigate the waters more effectively, all while feeling supported and stronger than you imagined.
Therapy can help couples transitioning to parenthood in a variety of ways. Some couples may come during pregnancy to better prepare, while others may find themselves in search of help with stress or the increasing conflict after baby’s arrival. Having a new baby may reveal some unexpected emotions, which I can help you work through individually or as a couple. I can provide a safe place for you to say things out loud that you never thought you could, allowing you to verbalize your feelings without fear of judgment. Some of the reasons for coming to therapy include:
Difficulty understanding your partner’s postpartum emotions
Dealing with expected or unexpected emotions
Feelings of worthlessness
Family of origin issues
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