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Why Minimalism? The Mental Health Cost of Too Much Clutter

If you’ve ever looked around your space and had the instinct to ask more questions about your life and evaluate how this mess has accumulated, minimalism can benefit you. There are clear costs involved in maintaining our clutter and desires for consumption. Read this post to learn about about the mental health cost of all kinds of clutter.

What is Minimalism? The Art of Knowing You Are Enough Without Your Stuff

What comes up for you when you hear the word minimalism? If you’re like most people, you will probably go straight to physical clutter and getting rid of stuff in your house. That’s a huge part of it, but there’s so much more. Let’s look at the many levels of minimalism.

Is Mental Health on Your Wishlist? 9 Strategies for Keeping your Sanity this Holiday Season

Have you considered yourself or your mental health during the holidays?  It's such a great time of the year, but it can be stressful and bring up painful and uncomfortable emotions as well.  I'll give you 9 concrete strategies for managing your stress levels and finding ways to enjoy this time. 

Talk about the Tough Stuff: Thanksgiving and Gratitude

What if you can't think of a single thing to put on your gratitude list this year?  When you're going through something hard, being grateful can be draining and feel impossible.  I explore the role of pain, gratitude, and numbing in my latest post, and how to make the most of these feelings as the holidays approach. 

What I Learned About Therapy by Googling "How to Apply Lipstick"

Have you ever been afraid to ask a stupid question?  If everyone else just knows how to do something, what does it mean about you that you don't know how to do it?  And even more, what if it's something really simple?  This week I'm diving into a personal experience of googling "how to apply lipstick" and diving into the lessons I learned about therapy from this experience.  Asking for help can be hard, especially when it's something we feel like we should know.  A couple of take aways from my experience, you are not alone (wait until you learn how many results came up from my google search), no one takes what you know and where you are in that process for granted, and gaining support is essential. 

Infertility Talk: How to Deal with a "Fixer"

Even if you aren't going through infertility, I bet you've come across a "fixer"...that person that is already 10 steps ahead and into problem solving mode before you've even finished your sentence.  Fixers can be great supporters and awesome friends to have by your side, but there are situations where they're just plain hard to deal with.  I'll give you some concrete tips on how to deal with fixers to avoid hurt feelings, sadness, and prevent resentments. 

"Am I Allowed to Curse in Here?" - Become an Authentic Client

Have you ever asked your therapist if you're allowed to curse in therapy?  Or apologized when you started crying?  I encourage my clients to express themselves the way they need to in that moment.  Anything else is guarded and gets in the way of therapy.  In my latest post I talk about some other reasons this is important and why being your authentic self will help. 

How Do I Know If Therapy is Working?

Ever wonder how you should be measuring progress in therapy?  How will you know if therapy is working?  What are the signs?  After all, you don't want to be in therapy forever, so you need to know when it is working, when it's worked, and when it might be time to look at another therapist or treatment option.  This post explores some things you will notice as a client if therapy is successful.

4 Reasons the Thought of Going to Therapy is Scary, and 8 Reasons To Do It Anyway-Part 2

In part 1, I discussed common fears people have about going to therapy.  In part 2, I'll talk about the 8 reasons to process and overcome those fears, and go to therapy anyway.  It can make such an impact on your life.  Do the benefits outweigh the risks for you?

4 Reasons the Thought of Going to Therapy is Scary, and 8 Reasons Do It Anyway-Part 1

I hear people tell me all about their fears of going to therapy and reasons why they haven't scheduled that first appointment.  It's normal to be apprehensive about therapy, after all, it's a new experience and you'll be talking to a complete stranger about your secrets.  In part one, I'll be discussing 4 common fears about going to therapy, and briefly introduce the 8 reasons you should do it anyway. 

Does It Matter Who My Therapist Is? Tips for Picking the Right Therapist For You

Have you started the process of looking for a therapist?  You may think it doesn't matter who the person is, or that it's ok to just pick the first person that has appointments during times you're available.  I will explain why it's important to find the right therapist for you, and offer tips about how to do that in this post.  Hope you find it helpful. 

The Most Important Thing Parents Need to Know Going into 2016

Parents are always looking for ways to be better parents.  Many are also coming up with goals/resolutions for the New Year.  I discuss my experience over the past year and tell you the most important thing you need to know as a parent going into 2016.  Happy New Years!

When Tragedy Strikes

Unfortunately, tragedies and challenges are part of our lives.  Many people lose hope in the face of difficult times.  I would like to share a bit of a personal story about a recent event in my life and some ways to begin the healing process.  There can't be a rainbow without a storm. 

Do Therapists Have Perfect Lives?

I get asked often if my life and marriage are perfect because I'm a therapist.  The short answer is definitely no.  In this post I explore more about what it means to have a relationship with a therapist who is human, not perfect, and able to truly understand your pain. 

How #ThisPsychMajor and Other Mental Health Professionals are Changing Lives

Mental health professionals are often misunderstood and misrepresented in the media.  Recently Jeb Bush's statements about higher education, specifically psychology majors, has led to the #thispsychmajor Twitter and Facebook campaign.  In this post, I talk about different ways to enter the psychology field, various issues that therapists and counselors work with, and have quotes from therapist's from around the country explaining how they help people change their lives. 

It's Never REALLY About the Couch

Have you ever felt like you and your partner were engaged in DEFCON 5 over what new couch to buy?  What was that fight really about?  And how do you normally argue with your partner?  My guess is, it wasn't really about the couch at all. 

"Will I Ever Be Good Enough?" A Relatable Approach to Self-Compassion

Have you heard of self-compassion?  In short, it's a way of understanding the human experience of pain and suffering, knowing that everyone suffers, and being compassion about your own inadequacies or short comings.  For me, I feel like the language of self-compassion can be hard to connect with, but the ideas are so amazing!  Here I break down some of the ideas in a real way that you can embrace. 

Are you Surviving the Mommy Wars? What a Therapist Says you Need to Know

If you're a parent, you've probably gotten involved in the mommy war in one way or another.  It can be overwhelming, stressful, and cause anxiety or other emotional issues.  I have put together a survival guide based on therapeutic principles.  You are the expert of your own life, can learn mindfulness, have control over your choices and behaviors, and can engage in humor to get through the battlefield and out of the war.