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What To Do When Everything Your Partner Says Annoys You

Your partner isn't necessarily doing anything wrong, yet everything he/she is doing is annoying you.  You realize that you are about to explode at the next corny joke that comes out of his/her mouth.  What can you do to keep your cool and prevent an argument?  I provide some easy steps here. 

Do Therapists Have Perfect Lives?

I get asked often if my life and marriage are perfect because I'm a therapist.  The short answer is definitely no.  In this post I explore more about what it means to have a relationship with a therapist who is human, not perfect, and able to truly understand your pain. 

Face Your Fears: Coming Out of the Infertility Closet

Is the fear of failure of judgment holding you back from sharing your struggles with infertility?  Do you find that you are isolating yourself and cutting off social relationships?  It's National Face your Fears Day, and time to reach out for support in your infertility journey. 

"Will I Ever Be Good Enough?" A Relatable Approach to Self-Compassion

Have you heard of self-compassion?  In short, it's a way of understanding the human experience of pain and suffering, knowing that everyone suffers, and being compassion about your own inadequacies or short comings.  For me, I feel like the language of self-compassion can be hard to connect with, but the ideas are so amazing!  Here I break down some of the ideas in a real way that you can embrace. 

How to Weather the Storm of Infertility Together

Have you ever heard the term "rainbow baby?"  A rainbow baby is a baby that is born after a stormy period (infertility, miscarriage, stillbirth, etc.).  This baby, like a rainbow, is an example that a beautiful gift can come out of a dark time.  Infertility is a devastating storm, with one of the most common reactions being isolation.  Move through your journey with your partner by you side, each of you providing support for the other.  Learn how to join forces with your partner to effectively weather the storm of infertility together. 

A Different Way to Think about Improving Your Relationship

How would your relationship be different if a miracle occurred and all your problems were solved?  What things would you notice in your partner and what would they say about you?  Diving into the miracle question can help you open your mind to new possibilities and begin the process of making changes that will improve your relationship.