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Transparent but Vague: A Mantra to Get You Through the Holidays

Mantras, Mantras, Mantras…a great way to help you get through tough stuff. Holidays are hard for everyone for many different reasons. Who couldn’t use some additional coping skills for their toolbox?

The Postpartum Couple: What Will Happen To Us?

It's hard to know what will really happen to your relationship after you've had a baby.  Conflict increases for practically every couple and most people are shocked by this.  They don't know how to handle it and start to stress out, which results in even more fighting.  I talk about some things that will happen postbaby, how to move on from conflict, and give you an exercise to see quick improvement in your relationship. 

Infertility Talk: How to Deal with an "Existentialist"

Continuing the series, this week I talk about the third type of responder-the "existentialist".  The existentialist is the everything happens for a reason kind of person, helpful in many ways, hurtful in others.  I have some concrete strategies for how to deal with an existentialist and help them meet you where you are, as well as honor your feelings at the present time. 

Infertility Talk: How to Deal with a Minimizer

"At least you are able to spend time together as a couple now before you have kids."  This comment has been repeated over and over to people going through infertility, as well as "it's going to be ok" "it'll work out, just relax."  In this post I discuss my second type of well-intentioned but a little off base responder: the "minimizer".  I share what minimizing does, how these people are trying to help, and strategies for how to deal with them. 

When You Can't Stop Arguing

Do you feel like fighting is the enemy in your relationship?  Are you ready to stop fighting all together?  My latest post offers some different ways to think about conflict and why your relationship has gotten to where it is.  Don't give up, and never stop fighting for your marriage. 

5 Things to Expect in Your Relationship After Having a Baby

Ever wonder what happens in your relationship after you bring the baby home?  Isn't it blissful?  In many ways, it's the most wonderful time.  In other ways, there are some challenges to deal with.  But in the end, there are wonderful opportunities to grow as partners and parents.  Read my post to learn more.

Why Elf on the Shelf is Good for Your Relationship

You've implemented Elf on the Shelf as part of your kid's holiday traditions, but did you realize it could be helping your relationship too?  Rituals are important in any relationship and will help you increase your positive interactions.  Find out why this is important here and how to do this all year long. 

What To Do When Everything Your Partner Says Annoys You

Your partner isn't necessarily doing anything wrong, yet everything he/she is doing is annoying you.  You realize that you are about to explode at the next corny joke that comes out of his/her mouth.  What can you do to keep your cool and prevent an argument?  I provide some easy steps here. 

How to Improve your Relationship with your Holiday Wish List

Don't just ask for the same old thing or this year's hottest item.  Get creative with your holiday wish list and find creative ways to improve your relationship at the same time.  It's a win-win.  What could be more important than making sure you have a solid foundation and working towards creating the most amazing relationship possible?  Read here for some ideas. 

How to Improve your Relationship with your Holiday Wish List

Don't just ask for the same old thing or this year's hottest item.  Get creative with your holiday wish list and find creative ways to improve your relationship at the same time.  It's a win-win.  What could be more important than making sure you have a solid foundation and working towards creating the most amazing relationship possible?  Read here for some ideas. 

6 Strategies for Dealing with Infertility During the Holidays

If you're going through infertility, the holidays will likely be a challenging time.  You may not even be aware of your emotions or the potential to be put in uncomfortable and stressful situations over the course of the season.  Here I discuss 6 strategies for getting through the holidays, using your support systems, and enjoying your time with your partner. 

Do Therapists Have Perfect Lives?

I get asked often if my life and marriage are perfect because I'm a therapist.  The short answer is definitely no.  In this post I explore more about what it means to have a relationship with a therapist who is human, not perfect, and able to truly understand your pain. 

Face Your Fears: Coming Out of the Infertility Closet

Is the fear of failure of judgment holding you back from sharing your struggles with infertility?  Do you find that you are isolating yourself and cutting off social relationships?  It's National Face your Fears Day, and time to reach out for support in your infertility journey. 

It's Never REALLY About the Couch

Have you ever felt like you and your partner were engaged in DEFCON 5 over what new couch to buy?  What was that fight really about?  And how do you normally argue with your partner?  My guess is, it wasn't really about the couch at all. 

5 Amazingly Simple Ways to Increase Intimacy after Baby - Us plus One: Part 1

You may have noticed that with everything you have to do, daily chores, taking care of your baby, going to work, etc., it's difficult to stay connected to your partner.  If you think about it, there are opportunities all around us to get closer to your partner.  Here I provide 5 simple easy to implement ways to increase intimacy after baby. 

"When Are You Going to Have a Baby?" How to Start Communicating about Infertility

Are you facing infertility or trouble conceiving?  It can be difficult to explain your situation to family and friends, and inevitably they will be asking you questions about when you're having a baby, or another baby, and when they will become grandparents.  Learn how to begin talking about infertility so that those difficult conversations don't become hurtful and destructive.  You can get the support you need by processing your emotions and communicating your needs clearly. 

Simplifying Sex: Part 1- Why is Sex so Difficult?

I am so pleased to share my first guest blog post.  My peer Maegan Megginson, MA, LPC, LMFT-Associate, is a couple and sex therapist located in central Houston.  We all want to have great sex, but why is it so difficult?  Maegan provides great information and insight into what may be holding you back. 

Tackling Relationship Conflict from the Inside Out

Disney Pixar's newest movie INSIDE OUT helps give parents and children a tangible way to talk about emotions.  But emotions are difficult for everyone, especially when they interject into our relationships.  Conflict is clouded by uncomfortable and unclear emotions.  Read my post to learn how to tackle your relationship conflict using simple lessons from INSIDE OUT.