The new year is a great time to explore goals and resolutions, but more importantly I think you have the chance to improve overall coping skills. 2016 took an emotional toll on many, so get ready for anything that may arise in 2017 by putting together your emotional toolkit. Check it out here.
Have you considered yourself or your mental health during the holidays? It's such a great time of the year, but it can be stressful and bring up painful and uncomfortable emotions as well. I'll give you 9 concrete strategies for managing your stress levels and finding ways to enjoy this time.
You can probably list a million things you love about the holidays, and a million things that bring you down. It's normal to experience a mix of pleasant and uncomfortable emotions during the holiday season. How much avoiding are you doing, and how much are you missing what's important? I go through 3 easy steps you can take to make the absolute most of your holiday.
What if you can't think of a single thing to put on your gratitude list this year? When you're going through something hard, being grateful can be draining and feel impossible. I explore the role of pain, gratitude, and numbing in my latest post, and how to make the most of these feelings as the holidays approach.
It's hard to know what will really happen to your relationship after you've had a baby. Conflict increases for practically every couple and most people are shocked by this. They don't know how to handle it and start to stress out, which results in even more fighting. I talk about some things that will happen postbaby, how to move on from conflict, and give you an exercise to see quick improvement in your relationship.
Have you ever thought about what it's like to go through infertility until you're facing infertility? Probably not, unless you have someone close to you that went through it too. Either way, it's hard to know what to expect from this experience. This post explores some of this common issues that people are faced with on their infertility journey. Things will play out differently for everyone, but this will give you an overview of what you may encounter along the way.
Continuing the series, this week I talk about the third type of responder-the "existentialist". The existentialist is the everything happens for a reason kind of person, helpful in many ways, hurtful in others. I have some concrete strategies for how to deal with an existentialist and help them meet you where you are, as well as honor your feelings at the present time.
"At least you are able to spend time together as a couple now before you have kids." This comment has been repeated over and over to people going through infertility, as well as "it's going to be ok" "it'll work out, just relax." In this post I discuss my second type of well-intentioned but a little off base responder: the "minimizer". I share what minimizing does, how these people are trying to help, and strategies for how to deal with them.
Have you ever asked your therapist if you're allowed to curse in therapy? Or apologized when you started crying? I encourage my clients to express themselves the way they need to in that moment. Anything else is guarded and gets in the way of therapy. In my latest post I talk about some other reasons this is important and why being your authentic self will help.
Do you feel like fighting is the enemy in your relationship? Are you ready to stop fighting all together? My latest post offers some different ways to think about conflict and why your relationship has gotten to where it is. Don't give up, and never stop fighting for your marriage.
Ever wonder how Snicker's bars can make you a better parent? Have you seen that commercial, "you aren't yourself when you're hungry?" I'll tell you about a technique that will help you to stop and think before you start yelling or disciplining your kids in a way that doesn't feel like you. It's easy to lose your patience at times, but this is a way to remember to HALT before you say something you can't take back.
In this post, I offer some techniques and tips for how to remain calm and keep from losing your temper during stressful parenting situations, such as when your toddler is having a tantrum in the grocery store. These are the moments in which we feel helpless, defeated, and like failures as parents. The truth is, all parents have moments of struggle. Use those moments as opportunities to connect with others, and follow the steps to show yourself compassion. This is one topic that will be covered at my upcoming parenting skills workshop. You'll want to check that out too!
Your partner isn't necessarily doing anything wrong, yet everything he/she is doing is annoying you. You realize that you are about to explode at the next corny joke that comes out of his/her mouth. What can you do to keep your cool and prevent an argument? I provide some easy steps here.
If you're going through infertility, the holidays will likely be a challenging time. You may not even be aware of your emotions or the potential to be put in uncomfortable and stressful situations over the course of the season. Here I discuss 6 strategies for getting through the holidays, using your support systems, and enjoying your time with your partner.
Is the fear of failure of judgment holding you back from sharing your struggles with infertility? Do you find that you are isolating yourself and cutting off social relationships? It's National Face your Fears Day, and time to reach out for support in your infertility journey.
If you've even gotten into a conversation about infertility with a friend, it can be difficult, awkward, and anxiety provoking. Even though infertility is fairly common, society is ill-equipped to talk openly and in helpful ways. You are well meaning and strive to be a good friend, but unsure of how to navigate the conversation. Here's a quick cheat sheet to help you get started.
You may have noticed that with everything you have to do, daily chores, taking care of your baby, going to work, etc., it's difficult to stay connected to your partner. If you think about it, there are opportunities all around us to get closer to your partner. Here I provide 5 simple easy to implement ways to increase intimacy after baby.